I'm DONE! Hangzhou with Kids: These Are ALL the Tourist Traps I Fell For.

[Mr. Ryan Hermann]

Hi, ladies!
Today, I really want to talk about those moments when we think we're helping our children, but actually end up making things worse. It feels like stepping on landmines everywhere!

• The other day, when picking my child up from school:

  • As soon as I saw his jacket was on backward, I blurted out, "Why are you always so careless!"
  • While he was doing homework, and the eraser shreds were scattered on the desk, I couldn't help nagging, "Clean it up quickly, it's so messy."

• The result? My child shot back at me, yelling, "Can you please stop always finding fault in everything I do!" At that moment, I felt completely lost and realized, perhaps, I did this too often because of small issues.

• Last week, I chatted with a neighbor mom who lives in the same district (Gongshu District in Hangzhou, for unfamiliar friends, Gongshu District is just one of the areas in Hangzhou):

  • Her child used to love cooking, but now, because she would always scold her child for being slow at cutting vegetables and making a mess in the kitchen, the child no longer wants to enter the kitchen.
  • She's so regretful now!

Attention! Take note:

• Our unintentional habit of pointing out flaws can potentially dampen children's enthusiasm, leading them to lose interest in things they once enjoyed.
• Let's not make our "love" an obstacle for our child's development.

So, (especially Hangzhou) moms, do we sometimes also behave this way?

• We genuinely want to guide our children towards the right path, but unfortunately, the words we use often worsen situations.
• For which minor shortcomings should we relax and not be too strict? Are there certain principles that we need to point out?
• Experienced mothers, let's leave comments below to give advice. Please help out this worried old mother!

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